the one that got away |
So how will your boyfriend do after the vows? Because this is just a sampling of the ways that a husband can bless or curse his wife. The effects are far reaching, long lasting, and either wonderful or difficult. True, there are no perfect men out there. But there are great ones. And it’s better to be single for life than to marry someone who will make your life a burden. Singleness can be great. Marriage to the wrong person is a nightmare. I’ve been in a church parking lot where the pastor had to call the police to protect a wife from a husband who was trying to stop her from worshiping and being with her family. It’s ugly. Don’t be so desperate to get married that your marriage is a grief. If you are in an unhappy marriage, there are ways to get help. But if you’re not married, don’t put yourself in that situation. Don’t marry someone whose leadership you can’t follow. Don’t marry someone who is not seeking to love you as Christ loved the church. Marry someone who knows and demonstrates the love of Christ.
true to life…i must say.
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isn’t it frustrating realizing that man like Miggy Montenegro or John Tyree only exists in movies and novels? Gaaawd. And because of that, some women tend to be more idealistic of the kind of man they want to settle their forever and a day with. But if you’re going to look at it in deeper…
❤
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i know that one of these days..i would have to unpack all of my hesitations, my anxiety, my admissions of fear and loneliness but for now i need solitude…
Parting is such sweet Joy?
Once in our lifetime each of us will experience the career that didn’t quite work out as planned. I’m here to tell you that sometimes it’s okay to say goodbye and that you can experience joy in parting ways. It could be that the decision was not yours or that you made the decision on your own. In either scenario, parting ways doesn’t have to be filled with sorrow.
In the case of a recent colleague, parting ways was bitter but sweet. Bitter in the sense that the company was close to home and offered flex hours. That aside, there wasn’t much to be desired. Failed attempts to rebrand the company, a management team from previous failing companies that never turned around and a culture of rewarding employees who exhibited poor behavior and made bad decisions versus those that exemplified a strong passion for positive change, teamwork and REAL marketing.
Whether you decide(d) to take the leap or you are forced to move on, know that you are not a failure. Spending our days getting along with a myriad of personalities in our career is part of being a professional and is critical to success. However, if you’ve reached your limit or realize that the atmosphere is toxic, it’s ok to move on whether you are in the driver’s seat or not.
Give it a few weeks and a little soul searching, and I will bet you will find that you are better off. It’s not only ok to say goodbye sometimes, it can be empowering and critical to a sense of well being.
amidst those earnest resolutions soon to be broken
and heartfelt appreciation previously unspoken
between choruses of auld lang syne
i need too to remember the familiar chill
of being forgotten, or whatever you will
of keeping a little way behind
and in spite of it one can smile and go on
work in pauses and fillers practised and well-worn
good actors never forget a line
it gets easier to ignore the older i grow
and it makes me quite free but also wistful to know
that i am no one’s but mine
is even more fun than going to San Sebastian, Irún, Hendaye, Biarritz, Bayonne
or being sick to my stomach on the Travesera de Gracia in Barcelona
partly because in your orange shirt you look like a better happier St. Sebastian
partly because of my love for you, partly because of your love for yoghurt
partly because of the fluorescent orange tulips around the birches
partly because of the secrecy our smiles take on before people and statuary
it is hard to believe when I’m with you that there can be anything as still
as solemn as unpleasantly definitive as statuary when right in front of it
in the warm New York 4 o’clock light we are drifting back and forth
between each other like a tree breathing through its spectacles
and the portrait show seems to have no faces in it at all, just paint
you suddenly wonder why in the world anyone ever did them
I look
at you and I would rather look at you than all the portraits in the world
except possibly for the Polish Rider occasionally and anyway it’s in the Frick
which thank heavens you haven’t gone to yet so we can go together the first time
and the fact that you move so beautifully more or less takes care of Futurism
just as at home I never think of the Nude Descending a Staircase or
at a rehearsal a single drawing of Leonardo or Michelangelo that used to wow me
and what good does all the research of the Impressionists do them
when they never got the right person to stand near the tree when the sun sank
or for that matter Marino Marini when he didn’t pick the rider as carefully
as the horse
it seems they were all cheated of some marvelous experience
which is not going to go wasted on me which is why I am telling you about it
